If you decide to go looking through forums or social media with a focus on hotwives, hotwifing, Vixens and Stags, etc. you will inevitably end up running into a lot of memes and posts from men who have a fantasy of an extremely perfect seeming wife as general society would dictate who is also a very dirty gal behind the curtains. An angel by day and a demon at night so to speak.
The general idea is a juxtaposition of behaviors and appearance.
The woman is semi-conservate in dress, a perfect housewife, a strict and loving mother, often church going, and viewed by others as pretty darn vanilla.
Behind closed doors this same woman is a relentless hotwife of some sort. You can add in whatever variables you like to fill out the fantasy. For some men the woman is submissive and likes to be “used” in whatever way he fantasizes about. Other men may fantasize that she is dominant and enjoys keeping her husband caged while she seeks pleasure with different me. The fantasy could be that she a nymphomaniac that cheats constantly, but only in a way that doesn’t spoil her image as a conservative well behaved lady when she isn’t having her fun.
The majority of men who seem to post these types of memes or talk about these fantasies and desires are not in a relationship that involves hotwifing. Often they aren’t in a relationship at all. It is simply their wish, fantasy, or kink that may end up unfulfilled. They will never get their angel by day who is kinky at night.
The strange thing is that if they tossed this fantasy out the door and just focused either on finding a woman open to nonmonogamy if they are single, or just opened up and spoke to their current partner with honesty they could very well have this aspect of their fantasy become reality to a degree without even asking for it.
Not every woman will be open to any sort of nonmonogamy, but many will.
The man’s fantasy of a hotwife could end up being fulfilled, but in a different way than he imagines.
For example, she may not want to humiliate and dominate him if that is a kick he has. Or maybe she is only cool with another person while he is there and it doesn’t mesh with his cheating while he’s at work fantasy.
The woman must go with her comfort and desires.
The angel by day and devil by night part however is usually the default mode.
Most women who get into hotwifing, swinging, or any other sort on monogamish lifestyle fun change very little if anything at all about how their average day goes and how they behave.
Note I said most and “very little” rather than nothing.
Hotwifing often boosts confidence for a woman and relives day to day monotony and stress. This effects how a person acts. There is a reason the saying “A Hotwife Is Happy Wife” is so common with people in the lifestyle.
Also, some, but not most women who get into hotwifing carry that extra sexiness into every aspect of their lives.
Most commonly a woman who becomes a hotwife will in her daily life just be as she was besides a tad of attitude changes. She will dress the same, do the same things… The extra sexy outfits and naughty shenanigans are saved for the hotwife moments.
During those moments she is sexual in a way she otherwise wouldn’t be. From the man’s view this raises the bar of her sexual expression possibilities.
When we then view that enhanced sexuality juxtaposed against her daily vanilla life activities and dress the daily seems more pure/normal than ever.
To a certain level the once fantasy of her being an angel by day and a succubus by night has been achieved.
She had to do nothing extra, and the man with the fantasy never had to even ask.
If this is your biggest fantasy you may wish to take it a bit farther.
The hotwife life will expand your relationship. If your relationship is top notch and tight it will enhance it if you are both into the activities. If your relationship had a bunch of problems it may however expand those.
Never go into any monogamish lifestyle if you aren’t feeling your current relationship status is at it’s best level possible.
If your kick is having an angel by day who is naughty at night and the usually dynamics that form with hotwifing aren’t bringing you completely to the heights of your fantasy, just wait a bit. Give it a year. Both of you will have had many discussions and expanded your outlooks and approaches to sex after a year of hotwifing.
Discussing the angel vs devil kink will be much different a year into hotwifing than before you start.
You can ask her to just play it up a tad. Either side… a bit more naughty at play times or dress or act a tad more straight laced at certain times.
People respond to other people’s positive responses.
If your hotwife adds a bit more naughty and nice and sees you really enjoying it you’ll never need ask again. She will slowly build it up for that positive response. It’s just how we humans work.
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