A topic of interest and occasional conversation amongst some traditional spouse swap swingers and vanillas alike who run into hotwifing topics online is the oral fixation they encounter with hotwife stories, videos, and memes. The cuck or Stag going down on his wife immediately after she plays no matter if a condom was used or not. Sometimes they talk of this with great wonder, occasional disgust, and for many it just seems confusing if the cuck or Stag identifies as completely straight.
It is time to talk about psychological validation and reclaiming through oral in hotwifing it seems.
One of the ways that most hotwives differ from a majority if swingers is the power dynamics within their primary relationship is purposely skewed when it comes to their hotwifing activities. Many play the role of dominant or submissive when it comes to their husband while hotwife scenarios are happening. Rarely is there an evenness except in the case of Vixen Hotwives. Even there the dynamics are skewed for a variety of activities, but usually balanced overall.
Another big way that most hotwives differ from a majority if swingers is there is little or no balance in play.
A hotwife has the sex.
Most Stags and Vixens dabble a bit or maybe a lot in other sorts of monogamish behavior that makes it so the male is having sex with other people occasionally too, but it is nowhere near a balanced thing and even in those situations it is often focused specifically around the Vixen’s play.
With cuckolding couples it is very rare for the couple to dabble in other things that end up making it so the male is having full course sex with others at any time. If that is a part of their lives it is usually very separated from their cuckolding activities.
The end result is you have a situation where most, if not all of the time you have a married woman repeatedly having sex with men who are not her husband while the husband has not done so.
Western values and societal programming are deeply set in most of us. Those societal standards would point to this married woman as something dirty and not worthy of love. Those societal standards and western values would dictate that the husband should view her as such more than anyone.
Even a woman who has embraced her more lascivious side and has rationally concluded through discussions with her husband that he approves of her hotwife activities will often fall to doubt. She will wonder of her value, she may feel lower, dirty, etc. She may doubt how her husband sees her since she is no longer able to be viewed as a pure and faithful wife belonging just to him in the manner society has trained her to believe is the right way. This is why psychological validation and reclaiming through oral in hotwifing is so important for many.
Before I go on with how it makes many hotwives feel validated, sexy, and desired by their husbands after she has had sex with another man I need to point out there is a big difference with Stag and Cuckhold men when it comes to the psychological validation and reclaiming through oral in hotwifing. It is a part of their play for themselves as much as it is for the wife. I’ll address the cuckholds and their wives first.
In the case of both cucks and stags I am talking about men who identify as straight here. A cuck or Stag who is bisexual is a different situation obviously.
For a cuckhold it is often in a sense the final act. He may consider it shaming, belittling, or an act of submission to his wife or to whatever man she just was with. For the cuck it is a fulfilling of his desire. If he lives as a cuck always and it is a full time lifestyle it cements his position in place. If he (like most cuck husbands of hotwives) lives as an equal or even dominant partner to his wife outside of their cuck games it enhances his game as he may now feel completely cucked. For the wife it gives her a sense of power in either case and also lets her know that her husband has enjoyed her activities and approves. The game is successful, he is pleased, and he is saying that she should feel pleased as well.
There are a ton of variations of this, but I have tried to keep it simplified and focus on the most common way and reason for it when it is a situation involving a hotwife and cuck husband.
Now we move on to Stags and their Vixens. In this case the psychological validation and reclaiming through oral in hotwifing scenarios run even deeper.
A good half of Stags do not and will not go down on their wives after they have been with another man if a condom wasn’t used. Some will not do so even if a condom was used.
Then there are a few who will, but it isn’t for any reason except their wives wish it.
Some Stags see their Vixen as sexy, desirable, etc. while also considering her just a regular woman.
They are more akin to the more common traditional spouse swap swingers type of couple mentioned at the beginning. They can look at their wives and think “She is a pretty 6 out of 10” and think “She is a pretty nice lay.”
They are realistic and rational in regard to looking at their relationship. The Vixen in this type of relationship is also realistic and rational. She need at most reconnection after play just as some more common traditional spouse swap swinger wives will wish a reconnection.
The psychological validation and reclaiming through oral in hotwifing dynamics of this sort isn’t so important.
Another type of Stag however views his Vixen wife as pretty much the most amazing woman to ever walk the earth. She is a 8 or 9 out of ten in the looks department at the very least to him and usually she sets the bar in his eyes as the ultimate 10. If he sees her as just an 8 or 9 she makes up for it in uncountable ways. She is his queen or goddess figure and he knows he could never do better because he can’t imagine anyone being better.
His Vixen is well aware of his views and she likes it that way. She plays into it which just makes him feel it more.
He is usually a very self assured type and because he in a sense fetishizes her he gets off on her playing the queen or goddess in his presence.
This man also loves affirmation that he is correct about his Vixen being so amazing. It is part of his desire for her to be a hotwife in the first place. Instead of Gaia (the Greek Goddess of the earth) she becomes Aphrodite the Greek goddess of (love, lust, beauty, pleasure, and passion)
He feels when she acts as such she needs worshipped in a sense. The more carnality she expresses the more she shines as his Goddess.
When he goes down on his Vixen after she has expressed that carnality he finds proof of both her salacious activities and proof that she has been enjoyed which makes him feel proud for he considers her to be his. He now knows that someone else will know the great thing he has in her and that the person knows she belongs to him. His very own Goddess queen. He feels validated in his beliefs and he feels he is expressing that to her.
A Vixen who is partnered with a Stag of this type will feel validated in her activities when her Stag goes down on her. She will often feel worshipped because she knows his mind, and it allows her to abandon all possible worries which could arise because of western programming that dictates such behavior as bad. She can revel in her behavior and feel prideful. She can take words which are often used to condemn like promiscuous, slutty, whorish, easy, etc. and claim them for herself in a manner that turns her on and makes her feel good because her Stag loves her in these roles and she belongs to him. She is validated as Vixen wife. Her Stag has claimed her as his. If ever she had worries, they are now gone.
I probably should have tackled this topic in two parts as there are a lot of other factors involved. Maybe split it up for Cucholds and Stags at least because I could have covered more, but it is in my mind a semi-boring topic to discuss. Therefore I am ending it here.
I don’t have a cool shirt design to go with this “Psychological validation and reclaiming through oral in hotwifing” either so I am showing you this sticker.
Universal Hotwife Sign Language Sticker Design Sticker (Get It HERE)
Universal Hotwife Sign Language… she needs say nothing. You know what it means.
This sticker was designed as a bit of humor, but it fits the topic.
Oddly, this sign language sticker has more than one meaning.
It can mean to a guy who is married to a hotwife “Get down there and you’ll find I’ve been naughty.” Many hotwives run around doing their thing without telling their partners and then do this after. It is part of the game and it makes the husband always wonder and hope his partner is doing her hotwife thing.
This is not how we roll. Everyone has different Hotwife rules they play with.
In our life I always know and am always there.
The other thing this Hotwife Sign Language would mean is “Get down there now” in a manner that says “It is your time” or “It is your turn” or “It is your duty.”
No matter how you look at it though if she is a hotwife and she does this you as her husband know exactly what you are to do. She need say no words.