We personally don’t call our playmates “lovers, but we are going with that for this little bit on meeting prospective lovers for a Vixen Hotwife because many other people do.
We aren’t talking about how to find prospective playmates here. We have done that before, and will again as it’s an endless topic that many have problems with.
Instead we are focusing on that initial meetup.
In a Vixen and Stag relationship it is usually a couples thing. That isn’t the case with all types of hotwifing, but with a Vixen and Stag it is important that both the husband and wife like the prospective play partner.
This one is mostly for the vanillas who are thinking to add some flavors. Vixens who are brand new and haven’t jumped in the deep end. If you are an experienced Hotwife Vixen or Swinger… Skip it.
The most common way couples meet their prospective thirds is through sites like SwingLifeStyle.com and LifestyleLounge.com. Swingers sites.
We use them, but it’s not our preferred way. We are vanilla hunters usually. That is expert mode though, so if you are new to hotwifing we don’t suggest it unless you have a lot of charisma and are both very charming and able to sell ice cubes in antarctica naturally. Start with apps and sites. Visit a few clubs maybe, but save the vanilla hunting.
Okay, you’ve been on a few sites for a while, you’ve waded through a bunch of profiles, chatted with fakes, flakes, and wanna-bees until you’re eyeballs hurt, and now you have a couple studs picked out to meet.
Lets get into the way to best go about meeting prospective lovers for a Vixen Hotwife experience.
- First make sure you have your Vixen and Stag game plan together. Are you up for playing that night/day if the person is cool? Are you prepared if so? Have you discussed a Yes and No code? It can be a word, sentence, or serries of hand squeezes for example. Much like a safe word it is good to have a code to give approval or veto a prospective playmate. Both of you should have and agree to them.
- Be clear about expectations of your first meeting beforehand. Let them know if they should be expecting play or not if all goes well, or if you are going to just meet and set up a play date later.
- Be clear about your requirements of the person beforehand. Let them know of any deal breakers such as being circumcised or not, height, age, build, etc. Are they expected to wear a condom or are current tests needed if there is to be play? These things should always be discussed before meeting.
- Pick a place that is NOT completely private. You will want privacy to talk possibly, but you also want it in public because there are a lot of freaks out there who pretend to be what they are not.
- Decide on a time, and make sure there is a way to contact in both directions if something comes up. Usually it is flakes and fakes, but sometimes things happen that are completely legit.
- Let it be known if you will be there as a couple or as a single. In the case of Vixens and Stags it is almost always as a couple.
- Let it be known if openly flirting and talking about the topic of hotwifing is cool, or if it must be kept on the downlow. Different people have different ideas on what is and isn’t ok in public settings.
- If play is possible for you immediately after a first meet be sure to have with you anything you may need.
- When meeting you BOTH should take the initiative in making the man comfortable and let him know you are comfortable. As a single man sitting down with a couple he will feel possibly at a disadvantage and will also maybe feel worried about the Stags reactions to him because our society programs single men to think husbands will take afront to other men flirting or being interested in their wives.
- Relax and have a good time while judging his potential. Yes, you can be judgy. You are picking a sex partner and an actor both. His role will be to please you as a Vixen and give a good show for your Stag. Remember though that he is there for a good time as well. Your job if he meets the grade will be to give him a good time as well, and your Stags job will be to make sure he is comfortable doing so.
- END GAME. You have had your first impressions. You have most likely both made your decisions and have used your secret signal to say Yep or Nope to each other. There is no need to drag out the meeting. If you are into the person it is time to suggest going someplace else together or to tell him you will definitely be in touch. If you are not into them you must now say that it has been a fine time (or something similar) and you believe it is time to go. There is no need to waste your time with a dud and there is no need to drag it out at a table if you are down for shenanigans either now or later.
It’s that simple. Meeting Prospective Lovers For a Vixen should be a fun social event whether you are planning or hoping to get busy right after, or if you are just feeling them out for a later date. It should be fun and adventurous for all involved.
Be prepared for success and failure both. Many who appear great on a website will turn out to be duds, and sometimes you may be surprised by guys you have low hopes in because of their internet profile who turn out to be great.
Personality will win over or ruin it most of the time no matter if they are average looking or gorgeous.
Be careful, and have fun. Enjoy the possibility and adventure of the meetings themselves and you won’t walk away bummed if chemistry doesn’t exist and personalities don’t mesh.
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